Episodes

In this podcast, I am joined with my dear friend Tanisha Harris as we discuss the subject "Iceberg Success". Well simply put...the “Iceberg Theory of Success” helps us to realize that every famous or extraordinary successful person had to invest a lot of effort and work until this person achieved his/her goals. We only see the top layer or the final result. But it takes much more than just showing up or using your words in order to be successful. In order to be successful, it takes hard work, ...

Let’s Talk about Relationships. This has a significant impact on American culture. Relationships drive a billion-dollar retail industry (holidays, birthdays – and the big one Valentine’s Day). But are relationships a necessity or a Luxury? Well, listen as JD, VirgoBlu, Big E, and myself (Bazz) discuss the differences between each two. We talk about the necessities in a relationship such as: Intimacy Romance Friendship – The MOST important Transparency Being Fully Present We also d...

Listen in as Joe Dilla (JD) and myself (Bazz) - speak on the subject of "Marry Before You Carry" The data doesn't lie... Over the last few decades, marriage has been a declining institution among all Americans and this decline is even more evident in the Black community. In 2019 only 30% of African Americans were married compared to 48% of all Americans. Half or 50% of African Americans have never been married compared to 34% of all Americans. https://blackdemographics.com/households/marriage-...

Shortly after my mom passed on Oct 30, 2019, I lost my dad almost exactly 8 months later on July 29, 2020. He is missed and loved by many! My father was an honorable man of principle and he created a legacy for our family by changing our last name from Wallace to Shabazz. He was a husband, father, brother, son, cousin, uncle, and friend. He also was a minister with the Nation of Islam and a proud army veteran. I invite you to listen in on this podcast as we capture some of the memorable times g...

The Real Truth Behind Your SMV (Sexual Market Place Value). When you go to an auto dealer to purchase a car – what are some of the features you look for when researching? Most people look for the Year, make, model, mileage, performance, comfort, features, maintenance frequency, etc. You have the sales price, then you have the bluebook value. Well...we do the same thing when it comes to people. We all have an SMV, but most of us don't understand what that really is. So I employ you to listen ...

In this world we live in everyone has a value. Some people place value on their career, items, experiences but not the same value on family. In this podcast, I ask my guests the million-dollar question "Is Your Price Tag Too High?" The responses are very interesting. So listen in as my guests (Eric, Mika, Boz, Kim, and LaTonia) share their views on relationships, a value of a person, and do modern women know how the value of a traditional man? Bazz

What is it? – Critical Race Theory is an academic concept that’s more than 40 years old. The core idea is that race is a social construct and that racism is not just a product of individual bias or prejudice, but is also systemic and embedded in our legal, political, economic, and sociological society that states patterns of racism are ingrained in all of these modern institutions. In other words, It is a framework Listen as we (Abdul, Kyla, James, BJ, Tory, and Bazz) answer the following ques...

First Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. In a study done by – psychcentral.com in 2019 on 36 children on the effects of parental rejection (lack of love) on their child. All 36 studies reported the same conclusion. Children who felt rejected/unloved by their parents were mor...

Legally just because you marry someone does not mean you have any legal rights to the child immediately upon that marriage… You can provide for them. Feed them. Clothe them. Love them as your own. Provide Health and Dental Coverage, even life insurance. But even with all that said - you do not have the same rights as the biological parent. You’re a second-class parent, but providing first-class benefits. Is that fair? Parents deal with: Behavioral problems Conflicts ...

Children are a blessing. They bring joy, love, value, and even education to our lives. We want to give them the best, we want them to not make the same mistakes we did growing up. So, we try to help them navigate life – helping them learn along the way. In some cases, they make us much better parents and people in general. Now on the other hand some children – not most but some can be disrespectful, ungrateful, entitled, and even narcissistic. They exemplify behaviors such as: Talking ba...

This is the final episode of the Men of Fire Series - Part 3: What's Your Motivation To Keep Us Happy? This episode is also in video format on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/4YA836lNepc In the beginning, we focus so much of our attention on the person we are dating/married to that we can sometimes make you lose focus of ourselves. Then, on the other hand, certain life events take place that can make you lose sight of your other half as well. Hey, I get it – life happens, but when we get off cou...

This is Part 2 of 3 of our Men of Fire Series titled: Defining a High-Value Man Most women want a good quality man, but does that include the traits of an HVM? Everyone's opinion is different and could be quite subjective. Nevertheless, we (Latonia, Big Boz, and Bazz) discuss in this podcast just that. So check out some of the traits we researched online (www.lovequestcoaching.com ) and see if any of those apply to you. MSO figured to be considered an HVM, they should have at least 9 out of the...

Welcome to part one of a three-part series titled - Men on Fire: What Am I Asking A Man To do? This episode is also on YouTube - https://youtu.be/UUdICdnI_PI Ladies think about that for a second. Men are considered to be the priest, protectors, and providers of the home. If he is doing all of this, what more do you want out of him? So my questions for the men are: Are you being asked to go above and beyond for your family? Do they even appreciate what you do? Do you sometimes go with...

This is Part III which will conclude our “cheating podcast series". Make sure you check out the previous two episodes (34 - Why Do People Cheat In Relationships & 35 - Sex, Sandwiches, and Silence). So what does "Shining In The Background” mean – simply put it's main chick vs side chick. The main chick is more visible to the public, official, and has priority in the relationship, but the side chick is always "shining in the background". Most men don't, and some men do have side chicks, why? W...

Chris Rock Said it best “Feed me, Phuck me and then Shut the phuck up” Men are simple creatures – our “wants are very simple” once we get them, we’re happy...or at least so we think. So let's explore some of the "wants" that can put a smile on a man's face and give me some solace he can look forward to in his relationship. They consist of: Food - It's always been said the way to a man's heart is his stomach - we'll test that theory. Sex - Although it's very important, and if you are i...

Why do people cheat in relationships? A study from May 2020 states that 20% of married couples and 70% of unmarried couples experience infidelity (basically CHEATING)! https://comparecamp.com/cheating-statistics/ WHY? Well, that's the subject of discussion on this episode. This age-old question is still a mystery to some people, especially to individuals in relationships who "feel" they are giving their partner 100% of them. Is it...frustration, neglect, lack of sex or interest, finances, no c...

Happy Valentines Day! Think about the below questions for a second... Do women control sex? Do men control the relationship? or... Does the person who loves the least control the relationship? Listen in as we take our podcast on the road in sunny Orlando, FL (recorded on SuperBowl Sunday) with an in-person dialog (with social distancing) with Eric, Cory, Jon, Joe, and myself. We talk about all the above questions and we even go a bit deeper in the conversation and discuss communication, sex, ...

The year 2020 has been a tough year for us all. We've dealt with this Covid-19 pandemic, loss of life, problems with relationships, people losing their job and lastly our mental health has been challenged. Well, thank goodness it's over and we can start looking forward to positive times in 2021. Listen in on this episode as I speak with my guests (Eric, John, and Chris) around some of the challenges they faced in 2020. I also join in on sharing mine as well and I also give the listeners some ne...

Happy New Year! Welcome 2021 In this podcast we talk about the following: To be transparent: A person does not hide or conceal anything Includes being emotionally transparent – (fears, reveal the inner self, sadness, joys, resentment, anger, desires, point of views, basic and most intimate communication) To not be transparent: Conceal Information and offer it up as needed. Can lead to living separate lives – living inner lives privately, building walls, and closing doors within the relati...

Wikipedia’s definition of Love bombing is an attempt to influence a person by demonstrations of attention and affection. It can be used in different ways and for either positive or negative purposes. You meet someone, and they seem to be perfect at first (great looks, conversation, intelligence, nice physical features, personality, etc.). They shower you with: Gifts Sex Public displays of affection Compliments And Much More Then you fall into the trap and find yourself in a s...

According to the ncadv.org (National Coalition Against Domestic Violence), we learned the following On average nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the U.S. 1 in 7 women and 1 in 25 men have been injured by an intimate partner. 1 in 4 women and 1 and 9 men experience severe intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner sexual violence (i.e. rape), and/or stalking with impacts such as injury, fearfulness, and post-traumatic stress disorder. ...

Well, it's that time of year again with the 2020 presidential election only a few days away. This is proclaimed to be one of the most important elections of our time. There is a lot on the ballot with this election that we all should be aware of (i.e. taxes, jobs, economy, Coronavirus, etc.), but what about those items that aren't (e.g. The black agenda - what are the candidates elected going to do to help African Americans with social and economic reform). How will they help the economic state...

It's been almost a year since the passing of my mother on October 30th, 2019. She is loved and missed so much by her family and friends. So for the anniversary of her passing, my brothers and I decided to have a podcast in honor of Fatimah Shabazz (R.I.P). She made an impact on any and everyone who ever came in contact with her. She and my father gave my siblings and me the blueprint so that we can be better people. So listen in as we talk about how she always supported us, some of the life les...

In the episode, we talk about the 7 elements that define an intimate relationship. They are: Knowledge - forming deep, intimate relationships, we share a vast amount of personal information that we would not necessarily feel comfortable sharing with others. Interdependence - tend to be highly interdependent, wherein each partner influences the other ranging from what to eat for dinner to where to live. Care - a considerable amount of care each partner places in the other, and this diff...